Sex in the 'Ville

By Tara Carr and Nicole Haskins
Rotunda ReportersBeing in a relationship should be a blissful experience. Even though you're bound to face some difficulties, your overall emotional state should be pretty happy. Insecurities within the relationship can come across in many different ways, and showing jealousy or control over your partner can be one of those ways.

It's important to make sure you or your significant other do not take jealousy too far to the point where it is hurting one of you and causing emotional distress. It's only natural to want to keep that person to yourself, but there has to be some sort of balance between alone time as a couple and time spent with others. It is unreasonable to expect all of your attention to be directed at one person.

Control is not necessarily as aggressive as some people may think. It could actually be something as simple as not wanting you to go to parties, spend time with friends, or even go home on the weekends to see your family. When someone begins to try to limit you from doing the things that make you happy you should really start to reconsider their intentions. Look at the bigger picture and think about who is giving and who is taking in the relationship. Is there an equal balance?

But sometimes, that jealousy can be taken too far. If you are dealing with a person who is so emotional that they let that jealousy overwhelm your relationship to the point that they are trying to impose fear on you there may be an underlying issue. In reality, they are the ones who are afraid. They are afraid of losing you so they try to keep you close to them and prevent you from seeing anyone else, whether that's an ex-boyfriend, just a friend, or even your own family. This type of controlling and jealous behavior can become dangerous if you let it get too far.

It is important to stop the controlling nature before it gets out of hand. If you let someone limit you on the little things, it will eventually escalate and they will think it's okay to restrict you when bigger things come up. You have to let your views be known from the start. For instance, some people don't have a problem giving up parties or friends of the opposite sex when they get in a relationship, but others really value their independence.

Decide what's right for you and stick to it. Communicate those things to your partner on a consistent basis so they won't ever have to be surprised about the way you feel. Just make sure that you are comfortable in the decisions you make and that you're not making all of your decisions based off of how you think someone else will feel.


How to get out of a controlling relationship

1. Run! Run as fast as you can!

2. Make up a Break-Up Lie

3. Find a new man who will treat you right

4. Watch the movie Enough

5. Get a restraining order

6. Try to make them not like you

7. Go to get ice cream and never come back

8. Stop answering phone calls and text messages

9. Seek professional help

10. Get an older brother or cousin to beat him up